DEAR DEIDRE: MY new boyfriend is lovely and everything is amazing – except I have a big secret I have not yet told him.
I got pregnant by a previous boyfriend and had no idea until I went into labour.
The baby did not survive.
I am 23, he is 27.
We have both been in bad relationships before so have not yet committed to anything.
The baby I lost is a huge part of who I am now.
What I cannot decide is when would be the right time to tell him, or even if I should tell him at all.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You must accept that you come with a past – and so does he.
Ask him about sad or regretful things in his life. Listen to him and be understanding.
Then tell him about your experience.
I hope you have now taken reliable advice on contraception.
If not, see your doctor, a Brook clinic or family planning clinic.
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