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Girlfriend won’t have sex with me and is spending time with new best pal

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend has a new friend and is spending more time with her than with me.

Sometimes she blanks me for days and kicked me out one night for questioning her.

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I am a guy aged 28.

My girlfriend is 27 and has a little boy of two.

We have been together for a year.

She won’t have sex with me any more or even kiss.

She spends all her time on the phone talking or texting this new friend she met through Tumble Tots – the friend has a little girl.

She will find any excuse to go round to hers.

She is not honest about where she is and I can’t stand the lies any more.

I reckon there must be something going on between them.

But if I say anything, she accuses me of being jealous. I suppose I am, but with good reason.

DEIDRE SAYS: There doesn’t have to be anything sexual going on.

Maybe your girlfriend simply enjoys being with another young mum.

She may cover her tracks because you seem jealous.

Tell her you love her and ask how she feels about you.

Listen carefully.

Avoid criticising the friend. See if you can work together at reviving your closeness.

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