DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD sex with my lover for years behind his partner’s back and we’ve now been an official item for nearly a year.
But he’s still living with his ex.
I love him to bits and I want us to find a home of our own together.
But when I mention it, he doesn’t seem that interested.
I am 32 and really want to settle down.
My partner is 36.
I don’t have a problem with him still living with his ex as she knows about me and they have separate bedrooms.
But seeing one another is really tricky as he works unsocial hours.
The one evening a week we could be together is his evening for being down the pub with his mates.
He now says he and his ex are going to Canada together to see his cousins.
It’s all making me very anxious.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This guy was cheating on his ex with you.
Are you sure he is not cheating on you with her?
The “separate bedrooms” explanation sounds a bit thin, especially now they are off to Canada.
He puts a night in the pub ahead of time with you.
Don’t focus your life on a guy who has you so low on his list of priorities.
You can do so much better.
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